Part II: Tantra Sutras for Winter Solstice 2014
Kamala Devi designed these Tantra Sutras to disrupt our current constructs in order to unlock a more direct experience of life. Love is a miracle, spirituality is mystical, and sex naturally opens us to the mystery beyond both. If you enjoy these quotes, please look for the full illustrated collection in 2015!
ON JEALOUSY
- If your God is judgmental, jealous and damming — give him space– it sounds like he may need a vacation.
- It takes a while for the puddles to dry out, even when I set my mind to stop looping a painful story, the chemistry of jealousy is still in my system.
- Witnessing someone else’s delight as they savor the forbidden fruit is satisfying only if your belly is full. If you are in want, it can be torture.
- I don’t want to make you suffer, but I can’t endure misfortune alone. On the other hand: I’m afraid of evoking envy, but my triumphs too are too big to keep to myself.
- The trick to jealousy is rising above the discomfort and recognizing that someone else has what you desire. Instead of condemning them– bless them– let the universe know you are big enough to handle getting what you want.
- Yes, I get jealous. Polyamory is not the solution to jealousy any more than monogamy is. I share my life with multiple partners because my love is too big for one person, as a consequence I feel more. Sometimes having multiple lovers lessens my insecurity, fear of loss or feeling left out–but other times it heightens everything!
ON KINK
- Can clipping fingernails can be a form of foreplay?
- Compared to who I am in my fantasies, I am a very good girl; so glad dreamtime knows no consequence.
- I used you in my fantasy last night. It wasn’t anything too elaborate or perverted, but it will forever change the way I think of you.
- Power Exchange cuts across all kinds of disciplines: In Queer culture it’s Butch & Femme in Tantra it’s Shiva & Shakti, in Yoga it’s guru & disciple, and of course, In kink it’s top & bottom.
ON LIFE
- Life loves me.
- The world waits for nothing–not even a nervous breakdown.
- Evolution is unstoppable. Personal growth may happen in fits and spurts, and may be stunted by bitter seasons, or un-fertile grounds, but evolution never ceases.
- Learning comes to us in different forms; some lessons pass over us like a gentle breeze, while some cyclones rip away the non-essentials. I fancy myself an expert tornado chaser who, every once in a while, needs to rest in calmer climates–Now is one of those times.
- Attraction is a great teacher. When someone has a gravitational pull on me, my mind questions why–what do I like about them? However, rarely is affinity the real reason they are in my life. Magnetism moves us in mysterious ways.
ON MARRIAGE
- If I just met my husband today, say, we ran into each other at the farmers market or something, I know for certain, we’d fall in love at first sight.
- Every bisexual woman who marries a man must, at some point, make peace with the fact that he is never going to be a lesbian. I think I am finally at that point.
- Marriage happens in the present tense. It is not something I did, nor is it something that happened to you. If we want to continue to make our lives together, we must perpetually re-commit. I am choosing to constantly re-commit to you, Michael McClure.
- This morning my husband pinned me down and whispered that he loves not only being my life partner and co-parent but he wants to breath life into my fantasies and passionate perversions. We are not going to settle for a happy marriage– we are starting a hot new love affair.
- I am tickled by the comparison Michael made of our relationship to an exotic lizard with a regenerative tail. Some of our wounds were too deep to heal, so we stopped trying to “save our marriage” and we started over. Disengaging from the past in order to regrow a new base is not simple, but we’re happy to announce it’s not impossible.
- Working on a Relationships can be an uphill struggle. Michael McClure and I have spent the several months on a metaphoric Mountain climb. Neither of us have ever been this far, and didn’t know what to expect. We’ve had to lean on each other, take turns carrying the baggage, and sometimes double back to rest. But we are now getting a glimpse at new vistas. And I’m happy to report: The view is stunning. The reward to all this risk is absolutely gorgeous!
ON MOTHERHOOD
- I used to be human, then a seed was planted inside me, I swelled with spirit and life sprang forth…now I am a mother.
- I bleed every month, when my womb melts from the inside out, as a regular reminder that we create life– It’s just how we’re built.
- The cry of the birthing woman from deep within the womb, beyond the sound of the body stretching open in a hospital bed is a rally for the millions of mammas who’ve been stripped of their sacred station.
ON NON-ATTACHMENT
- The world is not going to end if you don’t get what you want –but your clinging to the unreal might.
- No matter how much you want it, your Happiness is NOT dependent on something being what it is not.
- The renunciation of desire is sometimes just a spiritual mask for an immature child in a playground teasing their first crush.
- When my desires become too intense, a dastardly thing happens: I confuse them for needs, and cease enjoying the pursuit.
- There are infinite desires overtaking my garden. Like thirsty weeds; some are determined vines slowly creeping in the corners while others are dirty dandelions that scatter when I sneeze. I surrender. Zen is simply not in season.
ON NON-DUALITY
- The more dense the matter the more saturated with energy it is.
- Say whatever you want about me, it’s true. All true. And the opposite is also simultaneously true.
- To the degree you are willing to hold my hand through the valleys, I’ll be able to climb new peaks with you.
ON POLYAMORY
- Note to self: Do not make relationship agreements if the real reason you are doing it is to test if your partner really loves you.
- No, polyamory isn’t fair. Life isn’t fair. Or safe, or easy, for that matter. But if you want truth, freedom, personal growth–it may be for you. If it’s fairness you need, don’t you dare open your relationship.
- Polyamory is only one of my orientations–I was tantric, kinky and bisexual– way before I ever had my first threesome. At the deepest level I am an activist, I’m not promoting any one sexual identity, as much as I am advocating liberation.
ON SACRED SEX
- I’m on my knees, what now?
- I fancy foreplay that last for months, not minutes.
- My mattress has known more devotion than even the most highly-revered church pews.
- Being attached to an orgasm is like clinging to the walls of the river that will deliver you there.
- Tantra can’t be taught in words, if your going to read about it, the book should at least have pictures. 😉
- Within a temple, every object is regarded as sacred. I call my body a temple, but do not treat it as such.
ON VULNERABILITY
- I’m perplexed by human nature, particularly how we build defenses that push away the things we crave the deepest.
- My deep and dirty defenses dissipate in proportion to my acceptance of our limitation as human beings.
- Somewhere between the defensive walls that separate us, and our foolish hearts that are bloody from risking everything–there is a field. I am stumbling around, trying to meet you there.
- Personal Boundaries are simple, right?
- They are guidelines of what people around me can say or do to help bring out my best. I wasn’t born with a guidebook, so I don’t always know what my boundaries are until they’ve been broken. Good thing my body has an alarm system and I can tell by my reaction when a boundary is crossed. Then it becomes a question of how I negotiate being treated differently in the future. Not to complicate matters, but boundaries are different with different people. And, of course, they are constantly shifting as I evolve.
ON WAKING UP
- Eventually, I must fall sleep again, after all it is the natural rhythm of life, still I pray to awaken with more and more lucidity, until the days become as pure as I am in deep dreamless sleep.
- At night, like a sleepwalker, I slip out of my body and dance in the dreams of my beloveds. By day I get reports of my whereabouts. Sometimes they’re sexual, often they’re spiritual, but always surreal.
- Tonight, I die to the past and pray she passes swiftly. God help me push my unwanted history off a volcanic ridge and watch her be instantly incinerated, rather than suffer as my spent days slowly freeze in the gradual stages of hypothermia.
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