by KaliDas | Feb 19, 2020 | Love & Relationships, Writing & Creativity
This St. Valentines day marks my 18th anniversary with Michael. It’s also the year that we started our year-long relationship deep dive and renewed our vows. When he asked me how we should celebrate I said I wanted to immortalize the depth of our journey...
by KaliDas | Jan 3, 2020 | Love & Relationships
Let’s talk about addiction. Because of my liberated lifestyle, people often ask if I am love or sex addicted. I typically define addiction as anything people do that 1) they cannot help themselves, 2) negatively affects the rest of their life. This criteria is...
by KaliDas | Dec 20, 2019 | Love & Relationships
The year was 2002. Michael broke up with me one night after only 3 weeks of dating because we lived in different cities and didn’t want to be in a long-distance relationship. I cried all night and finally called him at sunrise begging for him to take me back. Michael:...
by KaliDas | Nov 22, 2019 | Love & Relationships
It’s no secret that sex with the same person, over time, can become routine. Long term relationships tend to lose polarity, grow comfortable, and experiment less. The statistics on sexless marriages are staggering. And yet, after 18 years, Michael and...
by KaliDas | Nov 16, 2019 | Love & Relationships, Polyamory & Non-Monogamy
My lovers and I use the stoplight ????Metaphore. Green means go for it! ???? It’s used to celebrate a win/win arrangement in which everyone is benefitting. ???? Red light means stop and check-in to avoid unnecessary suffering. (It’s like an emergency brake so as to do...
by KaliDas | Nov 1, 2019 | Love & Relationships
Breaking news from the National Center for Transgender Equality: The Trump administration today announced it will allow anti-trans & anti-LGBTQ discrimination in all grants from the Department of Health and Human Services, impacting federal funding for foster...